Something that comes up with a fair amount of predictability in discussing fantasy and science fiction writing is suspension of disbelief. Basically, this refers to the reader’s ability to suspend disbelief in whatever speculative elements the writer has included in the story, whether it be magic or advanced technology of some sort. Suspension of disbelief in the reader is key for these stories being a success.
For me, I require my own personal suspension of disbelief in order to write these gay romances. The most important result of this for me is that it makes it possible for me to write the romancey bits, and aids particularly well in writing of sex scenes.
It starts, for me, with believing the situation that brings the couple together would actually have a reasonable possibility of happening in real life. If I can’t believe a particular situation is at all possible, I fiddle and wrangle with it until I have some marginal confidence it’s at least plausible. It may require finagling of the actual situation, or I may have to twist the characters’ personalities until they fit the situation I envision. On occasion, it requires massive “rework” from a completely impossible-to-me seed of an idea into something that I can kinda-sorta see just might actually happen between two people if it were to happen in real life. Frequently, this reworking happens over the course of a number of partial and almost-complete manuscripts. Sometimes, I’ll take apart a completed story once I have a better “view” of the conflicts which were bare notions when I first wrote the story, as I am with LTPB. This kind of suspension of disbelief is usually fairly easy for me to attain, primarily because of the freedom I have to twist and play with the ideas until they fit something that I think just might be possible in real life.
What I have the most difficulty with—and this was true even when I was writing the gay romances steadily—is the sex scenes. I’ve been reading through some of my stories, and even with that, I’m having trouble believing I came up with them. Depending on my mood, I can be quite hard on myself, and I’ve always felt the sexy bits of my stories are some of their weakest points, even if I manage to do them fairly well. By “fairly well” I mean I manage to get at least one or two sex scenes in a longer work to tie into the characters’ emotions and thoughts in such a way the sex isn’t just sex, but becomes a way for me to build character and/or move plot forward on some level. Building character is good, and I’ll accept that. Building plot is good, and I’ll accept that. Those are passable, and, to me, believable scenes. What I rarely manage to do is bring both those aspects of story well enough into play in the sex scenes to create what I believe are some of the best and most moving sex scenes I’ve ever written.
And right now, I don’t believe in even the romancey bits. I’ve got a number of stories where I’ve brought my MCs to the brink of romance—or, hell, sometimes even still quite a bit distant from it—and I’ve stalled because I just can’t believe I’m capable of writing the kinds of scenes I feel the stories and characters in them deserve. This kind of disbelief is debilitating to my writing of gay romances, a genre I’ve never been quite as confident in as I have been in other genres I write.
I attribute this to a few things. One, I’m not as experienced with writing the gay romances as I am with the fantasy and science fiction. Another thing is that I’m not as well-versed in the genre as a reader; I didn’t start reading gay romances until I backed into writing them. Along with that, I’m not as voracious a reader as I was when I started writing the fantasy and science fiction I cut my writing teeth on; back in those early days, the first ten or so years of my writing, I read anything in the fantasy and science fiction genres I could get my hands on, whether via the library or through purchase from various local bookstores selling old and/or new books. In addition, I had the doubts fostered by the fact that all I knew of any romance subgenre came from straight romances; at various times from high school on, I read historical romances set in various eras, some romance-with-a-taste-of-science-fiction, or my one-time favorite staple of good ol’ Harlequin Romances—of which I once had an extensive collection of secondhand Harlequins written in the seventies and early eighties, which I’d garnered through many, many expeditions to a local flea market where there was a stall where I was guaranteed a wide selection I could always find at least half a dozen books I wanted to buy even after I’d exhausted all my meager book-buying funds.
For me, this wasn’t exactly the best recipe for writing confidence once I realized I was in gay romances for the foreseeable future. I’ve never quite worked past my lack of confidence in my gay romance writing.
This is why I wrestle with ideas until I feel they’re believable. Most of my ideas start of vague. A seed. My first inclination, even after all this time writing them is to blow them up far out of proportion. I conceive exaggerated personalities for my characters. Or I give them a situation that’s so full of plot holes the premises may as well be Swiss cheese. I’m the most rigorous in researching jobs (after I’ve started writing with an idea of what the characters do) because I’m all too likely to let my characters drift through their story without any sort of income no matter how much money they spend.
I’m being quite honest when I say that gay romances aren’t my forté. Part of the reason why I’ve tried to learn specific lessons with each story I started was because I knew I needed to do something to improve them. It’s helped all my fiction, but has improved my gay romances the most. Instead of having an occasional gem that worked, I found myself able to write better and better stories more and more consistently.
But I’ve never quite lost my uncertainty with the sex scenes and, in a lot of ways, the mere romancey bits. I think the reason why I’ve written a number of incest stories is because there’s built-in conflict there, regardless of which way the MCs move in the story, because they’re brothers. So, much as I enjoy writing those stories, they’re also sort of a cop-out, because of the built-in conflict of the MCs being related somehow. They’re a crutch, and I can’t allow myself to keep writing them because to do so would mean my overall writing skills would stagnate. Much as readers enjoy “more of the same,” it is possible to take it to extremes, and I don’t want to do that, because, even if my readers don’t get tired of it, I will.
And, I must say, this inability to believe in my own capabilities, even when I read a particularly good story or partial story I’ve written, and come across sex scenes I did quite well, is frustrating. I want to make progress on these stories, and my own doubt and lack of confidence are getting in my way. I think, if I could only suspend this disbelief in myself, I’d make better and faster progress with these stories than I currently am.